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**Grandpa** · 08-05-2013, 09:13 AM

My best marriage advice for a car guy - marry a girl into cars. If she isn't into them, get her involved. Otherwise it's going to kill your hobby or your marriage. I've seen it happen TON of times over the years. My wife likes cars (she has a Mach) but she knows/understands I'm obsessed with them and can't leave them alone. She has no problem with it as long as our other needs/obligations are met first. I used to be that guy who would spend every dime on my car and live off of Ramen soup if it meant the car would be faster. lol. But now, she practically has to force me to spend money on the car because ever since we got married and especially since we started having kids, I get serious buyers guilt for spending money on myself.

**DirtyD** · 08-05-2013, 09:27 AM

Originally Posted by SlowGreyGT

My best marriage advice for a car guy - marry a girl into cars. If she isn't into them, get her involved. Otherwise it's going to kill your hobby or your marriage. I've seen it happen TON of times over the years. My wife likes cars (she has a Mach) but she knows/understands I'm obsessed with them and can't leave them alone. She has no problem with it as long as our other needs/obligations are met first. I used to be that guy who would spend every dime on my car and live off of Ramen soup if it meant the car would be faster. lol. But now, she practically has to force me to spend money on the car because ever since we got married and especially since we started having kids, I get serious buyers guilt for spending money on myself.

We've been dating for almost 6 years, and it hasn't really brought down any part of our relationship, other than the free money that I do get, I typically spend on my car...which is very little most of the time, or which I spend what I don't have. She has better money sense that I do as far as saving, so I think that is really her big problem about it.

**Grandpa** · 08-05-2013, 09:40 AM

Originally Posted by DirtyD

We've been dating for almost 6 years, and it hasn't really brought down any part of our relationship, other than the free money that I do get, I typically spend on my car...which is very little most of the time, or which I spend what I don't have. She has better money sense that I do as far as saving, so I think that is really her big problem about it.

My wife and I were together a long time before we got married too, trust me, marriage does change things. There has to be compromise on BOTH sides for it to work. Just talk to her about it and let her know it's important to you and not a phase you are going through, but a passion for you. If she gives you ANY grief about it now, it means she will have a much bigger problem with it later because she will always will put things before it which could cause a problem for you. Then you will have to make a decision between your marriage and your passion for cars which could ultimately lead to resentment later.

re-rx7 · 08-05-2013, 09:50 AM

Originally Posted by SlowGreyGT

She has no problem with it as long as our other needs/obligations are met first. I used to be that guy who would spend every dime on my car and live off of Ramen soup if it meant the car would be faster. lol. But now, she practically has to force me to spend money on the car because ever since we got married and especially since we started having kids, I get serious buyers guilt for spending money on myself.

qft X 100000 I feel and am the same exact way.

Originally Posted by SlowGreyGT

There has to be compromise on BOTH sides for it to work. .

blownaltered · 08-05-2013, 10:49 PM

Originally Posted by SlowGreyGT

My best marriage advice for a car guy - marry a girl into cars. If she isn't into them, get her involved. Otherwise it's going to kill your hobby or your marriage. I've seen it happen TON of times over the years. My wife likes cars (she has a Mach) but she knows/understands I'm obsessed with them and can't leave them alone. She has no problem with it as long as our other needs/obligations are met first. I used to be that guy who would spend every dime on my car and live off of Ramen soup if it meant the car would be faster. lol. But now, she practically has to force me to spend money on the car because ever since we got married and especially since we started having kids, I get serious buyers guilt for spending money on myself.

My wife is one of the few that doesn't care about cars but knows how I am about things and loves me anyways. It doesn't matter if it cars, guns, r/c planes, tattoos, what ever it is she lets me do what I want. As long as we have money put back and can pay the bills she doesn't care. She just told me no Procharger F1 on this car or she would kill me!!!!